Just • Life Talk +Tips 🫶🏽💕 — What about boundaries⁉️ Let’s Talk About It ‼️
- Apr 2, 2023
- 3 min read
What are boundaries? Boundaries are limits that we set for ourselves. Boundaries are something that points out or shows a limit or end.
As humans sometimes we struggle with setting boundaries because often we don't wanna feel like the "bad guy". However, setting boundaries are important because it protects your mind, body and spirit. Setting boundaries also protects your peace and your space. If someone makes you feel bad for setting boundaries then more than likely that's someone you need to set a boundary with. Everyone's boundaries are different and they are based on what is really important to us. Don't let nobody make you feel like setting clear boundaries are selfish. If you grew up in a home where no boundaries were set or where people violated your boundaries, then setting and maintaining boundaries might be difficult.
🌸 The different types of boundaries —
There are four main types of boundaries which are physical, mental, emotional and spiritual listed below 👇🏽 but there are more.
• Physical boundaries: This is your personal space almost like your little bubble. By setting physical boundaries you protect your personal space and your body. This includes who you allow to touch you, be close to you or be in your personal spaces, etc.
• Emotional boundaries: This is allowing yourself to separate your feelings from those of others and not taking on the burdens of others. This is also not having to be defined by your job, social status, family, etc. Emotional boundaries protects your thoughts and feelings.
• Mental boundaries: This is yours eternal climate of safety. This includes your thoughts, feelings, emotions, values, opinions and beliefs. These are things that are sacred to you and you're allowed to have them. This protects your mental well-being.
• Spiritual boundaries: This is giving yourself permission to define your own relationship with whatever higher power you relate to, if any. Not letting others control your life or your soul calling. This also protects your values and what you believe in.
🌸 Healthy boundaries look like —
• Valuing your own opinion.
• Not compromising your own values for someone else.
• Being able to pinpoint when a boundary is broken.
• Being able to say NO and accepting no from others.
• Effectively communicating needs and wants.
🌸 Its not your job to:
• Heal others.
• Please others at your expense.
• Make it work if the effort isn't mutual.
• Continue to compromise.
• Tip toe around people.
• Anticipate your needs.
• Change yourself to their liking.
🌸 Its your job to:
• Heal yourself.
• Listen to your own needs and desires.
• Respect yourself and your time.
• Be your true and authentic self always.
• Set healthy boundaries that protect your energy.
• Leave when you're not being valued.
• Say no when it's not in alignment with you.
• Be mindful with your "Yes".
Signs you might need to set boundaries with someone.
• You feel emotionally drained after engaging with them.
• You don't feel safe around them.
• You no longer find value in the relationship.
• You feel annoyed after being around them.
• You avoid people that you suspect are going to ask you for a favor because you are afraid you won't be able to say no.
After reading this post,
I hope everyone has received some type of insight. Thank you so much for your support and walking with me through my journey and for allowing me to assist you with guiding you through yours!
xoxoxo The Spiritual Unicorn 🦄
I feel terrible for saying this but I need to set boundaries with my mom. 😮💨